Today as I was stopped at a red light I could not help but notice a young pregnant girl crossing the street. She was holding on to her little girl who was red and flushed from the heat.  I quickly realized there was a young, tough and mean looking guy walking behind them who apparently was her boyfriend or husband. I could tell she was angry at him as he ignored her and just kept drinking an energy drink and listening to his music. Then suddenly the light turned green and I headed home, but for some odd reason I saw myself in the young girl and I wanted to help her and give her a ride. It was one of the hottest days outside at 108 degrees and I could see she and her little girl were tired and hot .

Regretfully once again my fierce enemy “flesh” started a coup and was overtaking my thoughts of compassion. My flesh went below the belt and pulled the word “safety” and used it as its weapon against me. Yes, maybe I would not be safe. The young man could of rob me or pull a gun out who knows. Then thankfully my heart took the lead and fought the cause and reminded me to listen to the prompting of the Spirit. God would take care of me, it was him who was telling me to step out in faith and offer these young kids a ride. So I did what many might think illogical, I turned the car around and decided to follow my heart.

Shamefully I share I missed out. I missed out on one of God’s blessings today. I could not find these young kids they were nowhere to be found I searched and searched. I could not share God’s love with them because I was holding on to it to tight. I was so concerned with my “safety ” I did not meet the needs of those in front of me. I pray every day that I would show someone an act of kindness.

I feel like lately kindness has been really difficult for me to conquer. Many might think that’s not true because of what they see on the outside. If people read my mind they would be very disappointed with me. Many times I have let busyness, exhaustion and fear dictate my actions, then what happens I miss out. Whenever I start to rationalize my thinking I suffocate the Spirit in me and once again the enemy applauds his victory.

But today I am reminded that kindness is a fruit of the Spirit. It has permanent residence inside of me. Of course I will receive the Spirits nudging to use the gifts he has given me. And of course my flesh will battle every step I take towards kindness this is the holy war I will fight till I get to heaven. But when I think I am mastering this struggle another strong hold tries to pull me down.

My unkind thoughts also put a wedge between me and kindness. If I don’t deal with my thoughts they show up on my tongue. Then given the opportunity they slip out in words that definitely don’t build up. (especially with my teens)  When I get upset with my kids there are times my words and actions don’t display any kindness at all.

So please understand that we must also be kind in our thoughts and in our hearts not just in our actions. If we don’t stop the sin in our minds (the flesh) it will grow into an ugly beast. It will sneak out eventually and all will see the ugly monster we have housed and hidden in our hearts and minds.

So many times I feel like I am being tempted by Satan but the truth is my flesh is doing a good job keeping him away. My flesh wants to be my master and drag me away from the truth. But the good news is my flesh really has no power over me it has been crucified read Galatians 5:24-25

24 And those who belong to Christ Jesus have crucified the flesh with its passions and desires.

25 If we live by the Spirit, let us also keep in step with the Spirit.



  1. Edie Castillo
    Nov 4, 2015

    I’m very humble to say “you’re a very strong lady to have gone through everything you’ve gone through”.

    I’m a single mother w/one child (male) and now he’s 16 years old. Sometimes we have our ups and downs. With GOD everything is very possible.

    Thank you,

  2. Loree
    Nov 5, 2015

    Irene, You are an inspiration. I learned of you on Focus on the Family. I am struggling with an ex who is addicted to drugs. He has now came to church but continues to mask his addiction. The fear of that entering my children’s lives again makes me keep my distance. I pray for discernment and was so blessed when I turned on the radio today and heard your story. Thank you.

  3. Peggy Davidson
    Jan 8, 2016

    Hi Irene! I loved reading your book!! We became foster parents because of a boy, 13 at the time, CJ, who my husband met at “The Landing “, a church support group for kids with hurts, hang-ups, and habits, where my husband, Dave was a mentor. Most people told us we wouldn’t get CJ, because that doesn’t happen, you take whoever they give you. Seven months later though, we got CJ and became licensed foster parents on the same day, Dec. 15, 2015. This Dec. 17, 2016, we adopted him! It’s been one crazy year, but God has been right there every time we need Him.
    Your book has been so helpful!!! I still go back and reread it when I feel like I’m losing it, or when I feel like this is just too much. I am SO grateful that you wrote it!!! We are retired, I’m 63 and Dave’s 64. We got a lot of negative input when we would tell people what we planned on doing (foster/adopt), but we kept believing this is what God wanted, and then when we got CJ, we believed it was truly God’s will. I can start to see a change in his attitude for the better, we have a lot of support through our church, which helps so much.
    I would love to be able to talk to you some day, but I can’t imagine how busy you must be, so I’ll be content just to be able to write this. Thank you SO MUCH!! Peggy Davidson

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